Friendship at stake?

Read a news report that stated every time you enter a new relationship you lose approximately 10% of your friends.
Though I didn’t lose any friends, I did completely forget about the existence of 90% of mine, and that includes my family too. I got so wrapped with the man in my life, that everything apart from my kids went out of focus. The good news (is it really?) is that this phase doesn’t last too long.Even better news is that my friends were so happy for me, that they teased me about my vanishing act, rather than be hurt by it. But I’d like to clearly state I’m lucky to have such friends because apart from the fact that I value them for the individuals they are, truth is, we all need our support systems in place for when things go wrong, and family and good friends do form that amazing trampoline. Determine right this very moment, those whom you value, appreciate and never would like to let go of. If you are ignoring them, sit them down and tell them how much they mean to you.
I am a 19-year-old girl and my elder sister got married recently. My brother-in-law is a handsome man who often flirts with me. Recently, I have been thinking a lot about him. I know it is wrong but I can’t help it. What should I do?
Smile, laugh and say ‘jeejaji you are embarrassing me!’ Say it to his face, make a joke of it innocently in front of the family and I’m sure he’ll back off immediately. Sometimes it works to plays dumb and in this case, a few years down the line, you’ll be really happy you didn’t allow it to go any further.
My parents are too strict and I can’t take it anymore. I want to leave my house and live in a hostel. I am 17 years old and I know they will never let me stay on my own. What do I do? Can I run away from home? I do have a boyfriend who will help me financially.
At 17, it is quite normal to dislike your parents, feel distant from them, feel they don’t understand you, and have a burning desire to run away, be free and start living your life on your own terms. However, let common sense have as much room in your life as impulse and emotion. You are safe, loved and protected by your parents. They care for you, provide for you and no matter how strict they are, they love you. What if your boyfriend leaves you, or worse, you become obligated to be with him even if you start to dislike him? Take life one sensible step at a time.
I am a 16-year-old girl and was in love with my tutor. Once we made love after class. After that we have made love so many times. But it seems like he doesn’t love me. I think he is using me just for sex. When I opposed, he started blackmailing me, saying that he’ll tell my parents. I’m depressed, what do I do?
Just say no. You tell him that you will report it to the police. Having sex with a minor is a punishable offence and so is blackmail. Tell him it is clear that both of you made a mistake, but there’s no need for either to suffer. And there’s no need to be depressed. It is you that is in a position of power here, not him as in the worst case scenario you will get hurt personally, but it will hurt him personally and professionally.
I am a 34-year-old single woman and haven’t seen much success in my professional life. Since I’m an introvert, I don’t have any close friends. When I see people who are successful in their relationships and in their career, I feel like I have not achieved anything. I have low confidence and self-esteem. I would love to meet someone who would understand me but I don’t see anything working out.
It’s all about the power of belief. Every sentence of yours has a negative tone to it because you believe you won’t find success or happiness and are introverted, etc. It’s amusing that you don’t believe in yourself and expect someone to believe in you. I want you to read “The Secret” by Rhonda Byrne or watch it on DVD. And I want you to practice it for three months every single day and your life will change for the better.